From the talk, “Fidelity in Marriage: It’s more than You Think,” by
Kenneth W. Metheson talked about the importance of being emotional and
spiritual fidelity. He talks about how so many couples just focus on
physical fidelity and still have a marriage that fails because they
weren’t working on the emotional or spiritual part. It isn’t just our
actions that protect our marriage but what goes through our minds. We
are the only ones that know what is going through our thoughts. A quote
that I really liked from the talk was, “Spiritual fidelity also causes
us to consider the sacred covenants we have made in the temple and how
the very nature of our thoughts and deeds can undermine those covenants.
In other words, if a person is unfaithful spiritually he is not
honoring his temple covenants even though he has not committed physical
acts of intimacy.”
The covenants that we can make in the
temple are so sacred and need to be protected at all times. If we seek
to allow the Lord into our marriage we are showing our love and
gratitude to Him for our marriage. The Atonement is not only there if
we find that we have somehow aren’t cleaving unto our spouse with our
whole hearts but it is also there for us to be able to do that. We
aren’t able to “…love thy wife (or husband) with all thy heart, and
shalt cleave unto her and none else” (D & C 42:22) without the
atonement. The atonement is for everyone, for the ones that have lost
their footing and are trying to come back and for those that are being
faithful in their actions and thoughts.
In Brother
Metheson’s talk he gave great advice for couples to focus on the
strengths of their spouse and to be sensitive and attentive to them. If
we are able to change our attitudes toward our spouses we are able to
see them in a more Christ-like way. Forgiveness for our actions or for
our spouse’s actions will let peace and strength come into the
marriage. Holding onto anger and resentment will only distorts reality
and will cause the healing process to be delayed.
From an
article from a BYU-Idaho student, “Being Faithful to My Spouse,” talks
about focusing on our marriage and not about how the grass is greener on
the other side of the fence. She talks about the importance of making
sure your grass is as green as it can be. “I want to have the greenest,
most beautiful grass on the side of the fence where my husband is, and I
will not let anything in to harm it.” We have to make sure we are
protecting our marriages and putting all our love and strength to our
spouse. We married them because we loved them and we need to continue to
love them through eternity.
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